And you are in Him, made full and having come to fullness of life [in Christ you too are filled with the Godhead—Father, Son and Holy Spirit—and reach full spiritual stature]. And He is the Head of all rule and authority [of every angelic principality and power]. —Colossians 2:10
I believe that women have a need to feel safe and cared for, and I don’t believe that is wrong. My husband takes very good care of me and I like it. He is protective and always wants to make sure that I am safe. The difference in me and perhaps someone who has an out-of-balance attitude in this area is that, even though I thoroughly enjoy Dave taking care of me, I also know that I could take care of myself if I needed to. Even though I am dependent upon him and rightfully so, I am not so dependent that I am handicapped by it.
A balanced independence is what we should seek, and to me that is being able to trust and depend on God and other people and yet establish my individual identity. The Bible teaches that we are not to be conformed to the pattern of this world (Romans 12:2). Everyone has his or her own idea of what we should be. To establish a balanced independence in our lives must become our high priority.
Lord, I cannot change myself, but I can be transformed by the renewing of my mind according to Your Word. Bring balance to my relationships that leads to inner harmony. Amen.